Hur mycket behöver jag träna?

I guess I became desensitized (in relation to my communication issues) by routinely placing myself in situations that generated fear or discomfort. I consciously commenced such a proactive approach in 2000 when I decided to make a concerted effort to confront my fears. With hindsight, I now realize that I had made considerable inroads into reducing my levels of anxiety during the preceding 20 years (when I wore a small prosthetic device known as the Edinburgh Masker).

It became my mechanical crutch, allowing me to keep my head above water in my darkest hours. Although the electronic machine never made me fluent, it gave me the confidence (under the umbrella of the masking sound) to speak in situations that I know I would, otherwise, have avoided (particularly while on police duties).

As a result, I acquired very useful interpersonal skills which many PWS (quite understandably) do not possess because they tend to remain on the fringes of conversation. Conversely, `fluent’ people generally develop these skills progressively from an early age. The fact that I had attained a high degree of proficiency in the art of chit chat/small talk proved invaluable when (13 years ago) I chose to challenge my restrictive beliefs and embark upon a more expansive lifestyle.

I think it is important to clarify the point that I gained the expertise to engage in meaningful oral conversation (with others) MANY YEARS before I acquired greater fluency. Yet, I did not appreciate that I possessed such skills until I had occasion to spend a protracted period in the company of a large group of other PWS/PWB (for the very first time in my life). This occurred when I attended my initial McGuire course (and subsequent support groups) in 2000.

Although many of those present (having been equipped with certain physiological tools/techniques) could amply demonstrate that they were able to speak well in those controlled environments, their conversational skills (in a social situation) remained limited. Please be assured that these comments are not intended to be disparaging, I’m simply making an observation. As with any skill, we do not become proficient overnight, we need to perform that specific task repeatedly.

Over the years, I have facilitated several active workshops on this very subject. I feel that many PWS/PWB could benefit from gaining greater proficiency in this important area of communication.

Bob, I’m sorry it’s taken me a few days to respond but I have not had an opportunity to scrutinze my posts during recent days.

Kindest regards
Alan

Det här inlägget av Alan Badmington tycker jag väl illustrerar hur mycket man behöver träna för att nå framgång. Vi är alla olika och var och en måste själv ta reda på hur mycket träning man behöver lägga ner för att nå fram till ett visst mål. Alan B nämner för sin del att det för honom har tagit flera år. Så har det varit även för mig. Flera år!!! Det låter kanske avskräckande. Det skulle det ha gjort för mig om jag fått veta i förväg hur många år jag själv har behövt träna mitt tal för att det skulle bli märkbart bättre. Därför måste träningen göras lustbetonad. Det måste vara kul att träna. Att åstadkomma lockande träningsvillkor är en angelägen uppgift för alla stamningsföreningar. Det upptäckte vi i TALAkademin. Vi ordnade därför olika event som lockade till träning på olika sätt med syfte att förbättra vår muntliga framställning. Det gäller att hålla ut. Att vara uppfinningsrik. Att ha kul tillsammans i en stamningsförening. Gärna samverka med andra stamningsföreningar. I Sverige och även utomlands.

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